Biography
Look around you and see….ministries for children, programs for youth,
ministries for men, women, and ministries and groups for singles…but
very few for couples. When you look around, do you realize that we, as
couples, are a minority??? Particularly, married couples.
This is why we were motivated, led by God to develop a “club” for
couples. So often when faced with problems in our own marriage, we
realized that others were having the same identical problems. And these
problems are not unique to age or amount of time together. We have
come to seminars and retreats where there were newlyweds who were
married for six months and veterans who were married for fifty years
who were still arguing about the finances and putting the toilet seat up or
down!
We would unofficially clique with other couples for support and for “group
date” outings periodically. But nothing on a regular basis. We also
looked around and realized that the majority of the couples that got
married around the time that we did were now divorced, separated, had
had a separation at some point, or were even on their second or third
marriages! Out of these observations, in February 2002, The Couple’s
Club was born.
Think about it, Wilma had Betty, Fred had Barney, Lucy had Ethel, and Ricky had Fred! Couples need support. Couples need to be around other couples at least on a monthly basis. Couples cannot really go to single people for advice or support on a relationship problem because they may not really understand the issue or may not have ever had the
experience to assist them.
So often when couples get married or even commit to one another for long periods of time, relationships will get stale and mundane. Why? Many times we get comfortable with each other and can sometimes take one another for granted. A friend once reminded me of an old song that says, “The same thing it takes to get me is the same thing it takes to
keep me.” This is a very valid statement. Many times we get so caught up in the day to day living, work schedules, dealing with children,problems with bills and finances, and everyday stressors…that we don’t take out the time to nurture our relationships.
A very wise couple that I know from church, sets aside every Tuesday evening for “Date Night” with each other. This couple has been married some forty years but they still refuse to schedule anything on Tuesday evening. This is their time.
We are very intense and committed to our work schedules and many other things in our lives. We need to nurture our relationships the same way and continue to “Date our Mate” so that will not end in fate.
One of our mottos in The Couple’s Club is to “Leave the kids at home, and bring another couple.” So often our lives get caught up in the kids. It gets to the point that they are all we have in common. All we have to talk about is the kids’ grades, performances coming up, school programs and conferences, medical appointments, and so on. Well, what happens when the kids grow up and leave the “nest”? Many marriages end at this point…physically, or emotionally. Don’t let this happen to your relationship. Join us on monthly outings and fellowship time together Join us as we all continue to “Re-Kindle the Old Flame” and “Keep the Fire Burning”!
We are a group of couples from various walks of life, various backgrounds, young, not-as-young, newly weds, and dating couples. We are non-denominational. Race, ethnicity, cultural background, age, and religious preference, are totally unimportant to us. This is a time to gather together, meet other couples, build support networks, and most importantly nurture and strengthen our relationships.We invite you to join us.
Be Blessed!
Founders: Marvin Smith and Faith Lloyd-Smith
